Many years ago when I was much younger, I was self-employed. Happily I worked out of my home, which provided me with the freedom I needed to take care of my child. I obtained this job through a very close friend, whose husband owned the business. Some months down the road, my friend's husband wrongly accused me of doing something unethical. This was not my nature, and I was extremely hurt. I lost my job and my friendship. It took me a while to recover from this hurtful situation. Being erroneously accused is quite humiliating and degrading. Fortunately the allegation towards me was not damaging to my life, only my ego. And although over the years, I have endured through other fallacious accusations, I have learned many things.
Unfortunately, there are people everyday that deal with others blaming them for something they did not do. For many this has caused damage in their life. They've been disgraced, had relationships destroyed, and even had their lifestyle altered. I know that when involved in such a situation, it just doesn't seem fair. Our first thought is, generally, anger towards the individual that inflicted this harm. Or the 'get even' attitude even creeps in.
If you ever dealt with such an attack, you're probably wondering how to get through it and still maintain your Christian ethics while becoming triumphant. We can take our lessons from Biblical examples. This will help us gain understanding on how to be the victor in such circumstances. One such illustration is found in Genesis 29, in the life of Joseph, who, after being sold into slavery, by his brothers, ended up serving in the household of one of Pharaohs officials. The official's wife wrongly accused Joseph of attacking her, which landed him in prison for many years. Joseph could have been very angry that his brothers betrayed him or furious that the wife of his boss erroneously blamed him for something he didn't do. And because of his forgiving nature and trust in God, he continued to have favor with those around him. This eventually led him to become in charge over all the land of Egypt. Thus...Victory
Another mentioned incident was the prophet Jeremiah. The King of Judah, Zedekiah nor his attendants or the people of the land, would listen to the Word of the Lord through the prophet. They thought Jeremiah was defecting, therefore arresting and imprisoning him. After much conflict, Jeremiah was eventually saved by the Lord and released. (Jer. 37-40) One thing to learn from Jeremiah - never stop trusting in the Lord and continue to keep doing and saying what He instructs.
Our Savior and Lord, Jesus was scourged, lost many friends and His life. Yet even in the midst of his indictment He asked the Father to 'forgive' them, because they didn't know what they were doing. Such grace and mercy! If we could profit anything from His example, it would be to demonstrate grace and mercy to those responsible for our pain.
You or a loved one, might be experiencing hurtful incriminations right now. You might say, what can we do about it? How can we get through the pain of the betrayal and the consequence? Children of God, there is only one way and that's through the power of God's Word and His Spirit. 1) Rom. 12:19 says, "Don’t try to get revenge for yourselves, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath. It is written, ." Give your hurt over the the Lord! He will take care of it. 1 Pet. 3:9 says, "Don’t pay back evil for evil or insult for insult. Instead, give blessing in return. You were called to do this so that you might inherit a blessing." You'll be blessed by the Lord, because you bless your accusers! 2) Mark 11:25-26 says, "And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone forgive him, that you Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." We must forgive those who come against us. You might have to begin forgiving by faith. Each day the thoughts of those that came against you will rise up, but you have to forgive them, just like Jesus did. Remember, they didn't know what they were doing. They were just a tool of the devil's ploys. Forgive, so that you will be forgiven.
And to close, we must remember these words of Jesus in Luke 6:27-29, "But I tell everyone who is listening: Love your enemies. Be kind to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who insult you. If someone strikes you on the cheek, offer the other cheek as well. If someone takes your coat, don’t stop him from taking your shirt."
Remember this, that whatever you've just been through, God is able to heal your broken heart and spirit, He will restore what has been stolen and He will make what's been wrongly done - right!
I don't know about you, but I have to constantly work at keeping my thoughts under control. Thoughts often go off the deep end when we get in fear or upset with ourselves. We can go along just fine, till we realize we've made a mistake and allow ourself to meditate on the wrong thing. Worry, which is prolonged fear, in the caverns of our mind, can make one sick. The real clincher is when we verbalize what we are thinking. Luke 6:45 "...out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks." That can get us into real trouble! Speaking the problem gives power to the situation. Let's face it, thinking on negative thoughts, things that tear down instead of build up, or fear is not right thinking. It's destructive.
Phil. 4:8 says, "Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy - meditate on these things." The only way to conqueror wrong thinking is to 'renew our mind'. Eph. 4:23 (Amp) says, "And be constantly renewed in the spirit of your mind [having a fresh mental and spiritual attitude]," Right thinking, empowers faith.
You might be asking, how does one 'renew his mind'? Renewing the mind is getting ahold of God's thoughts. It's making yourself think like Him. That requires us laying aside our opinions, doubts, and fears and begin thinking on the situation like God does. The only way to see things the way God does, is to read, study and meditate on His Word! The Bible is God's thoughts, nature, and attitude. This takes work, it is constantly casting down imaginations, reasonings, or arguments that are contrary to the Word. It's a minute by minute effort. Begin by taking control over our mouth, and only allow what God says about the problem to be said. Asking the Holy Spirit to help us to recognize when we get into wrong thinking is a benefit. He will help to redirect our thoughts which in turn assists us in speaking right.
Proverbs says, 'As a man thinks, so is he...'! We can see that the way we think about something, has bearing on our behavior. If we are thinking that things are bad and getting worse, we certainly will act like it. Yet, if we believe the Word of God, meditating and confessing what He says, we'll take steps in that direction. Rom. 8:28 (Amp) "We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to [His] design and purpose."
So don't rent the space in your mind to evil thoughts. Take today to renew your mind to God's Word. You'll turn your wrong thinking into right thinking!
We've all heard the phrase "Carpe diem" or more commonly known as "Seize the day". Make the most of the moment! Yes, 'life happens'. Work is consistent, laundry never stops, diapers need changing, lawn needs mowing weekly, and on and on. The regular routine becomes mundane and monotonous. And before you know it, days, months and even years have passed. Talking to our 'senior' aged family and friends, the most common statement is - "If I could live again, I would 'make the most of every moment."
Eph. 5:15-16 (Amp) says, "Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully worthily accurately, not as the unwise witless, but as wise (sensible, intelligent people), Making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil." In comparison to eternity, we live a very short life on this earth. God created each of us with purpose in mind. Ponder for a minute, what is your purpose? Do you believe you've tapped into it and are living in it's essence?
God places people in our life path. Whether it's for us to influence or their impact, nothing is by chance. Each person is valuable and important. If you could think of one person that has had a positive guidance in your life, who is that? Was it how they treated you, what they said, or what they imparted that made a difference? You will probably always remember with fondness their character, their words of inspiration, or how they embraced you for you. Nothing can remove the meaningful effect they had upon you.
Now think about yourself. Are you living up to your full potential in God? Is your life mirroring the image of God's Spirit? Are you an inspiration to others in a positive way? Every moment you're with people, should bring an opportunity to 'live purposefully, worthily and accurately'. Sharing His Word, giving words of encouragement and faith will empower others to remain steadfast in faith. Galatians 6:9-10 (Amp) "And let us not lose heart grow weary faint in acting nobly doing right, for in due time at the appointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosen relax our courage faint. So then, as occasion and opportunity open up to us, let us do good [morally] to all people [not only being useful or profitable to them, but also doing what is for their spiritual good and advantage]. Be mindful to be a blessing, especially to those of the household of faith [those who belong to God’s family with you, the believers]."
We encourage you today, to 'seize the moment' for strengthening your relationship with the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Continue in your constant stand of faith in the Lord's Word! "Let the Word of Christ richly all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace r hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him."
Pastors Michael & Ginny Gulotta
Pro. 11:25 "The generous soul will be made rich, And he who waters will also be watered himself."